Let Them Eat Cake! (A Tribute to Loving Yourself)

Let Them Eat Cake! (A Tribute to Loving Yourself) | Positively Smitten

By Kathryn Perreault

Media is all around us and, whether we like it or not, it affects how we view ourselves. Wear this. Be that. Say these words but never say those. Culture dictates society’s vision of what is a woman and more than most it focuses on a woman’s appearance. With messages whirling around in the everyday media telling us who we should be and what our bodies should look like, being a woman in today’s world is difficult. Trust me. I understand.

I am a curvy young woman with hips that at times I wish I could shave down. I won’t deny that I have my moments where I wish to be like those models in the commercials, walking around in marble palaces in lace underwear with absolutely no jiggle and perfectly flawless skin. But let’s be honest, where does one even find a marble palace to walk around half naked in? I for one have no idea but if I did, I would no doubt want to do that. Because that just sounds awesome. The scene however, would be very different because I have jiggle, I have an uneven skin tone, and yes, I could be healthier and I should eat a few more vegetables.

With that said, I love my body. Sure, we don’t always get along, but love is love. You don’t always have to get along.

One thing I always get along with however is food. We all love food. Media tells women that they can love food too… if it’s under one 100 calories and contains only lettuce. Lettuce is great! I love a good salad as much as the next person, but I don’t want that as every meal. There is no debating that eating healthy and exercising is important. Not because that is what society tells us we should do, but because it can make us feel better emotionally and physically, and it can give a person the energy to reach their fullest potential. Everyone wants to be happy with themselves, but we don’t reach happiness through fad diets and what could probably be considered rabbit food. A person should enjoy the food they eat.

Ladies, I implore you, do not eat a meal simply because it’s “low fat” or low in calories, eat it because you enjoy it. Splurge on that extra piece of cake. If you want not one, not two, but three extra large scoops of ice cream, do it! It isn’t the wisest decision to do this every night, but moderation is the key to anything, food included.

Do not let others tell you what you can and cannot eat. You decide. Turn off those media images. Love your body. Decide for yourself who you are. Decide for yourself your definition of happiness because you cannot find true happiness when you are at constant war with yourself. Show cultural stereotypes that you refuse to fit in their size zero mold of a woman, because a true woman fits into no mold. She makes her own.

Now, go forth. Throw caution to the wind and eat that double chocolate chip cookie you’ve been eyeing for an hour. You deserve it because you are a strong, beautiful, healthy woman who deserves every ounce (literally) of happiness. To celebrate your independence, enjoy a simple, sinfully delicious recipe on me, and please, enjoy every bite!


Chocolate Strawberry Mug Cake

What you’ll need:  {makes 2 mug cakes}
4 tablespoons all purpose flour
4 tablespoons sugar
3 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
¼ teaspoon baking powder
¼ teaspoon salt
1 egg- beaten
3 tablespoons milk
1 tablespoon vegetable oil
¼ teaspoon vanilla extract
Dash of cinnamon
Dollop of strawberry jam

What to do:
1.       In a small bowl, combine flour, sugar, cocoa, baking powder, salt, egg, milk, vegetable oil, vanilla extract, and cinnamon.
2.      Pour mixture into a regular sized coffee mug, just below half way. Place the dollop of strawberry jam into the mixture.
3.      Microwave on high for one minute and 30 seconds. If needed {if mixture is still gooey}, microwave on high for up to an additional 30 seconds.

About Kathryn:

My name is Kathryn. Kate for short. I am a young woman who is still figuring out life and trying to learn just where exactly I fit into the great scheme of life. I am not certain about much in my life, but then again, who really is? What I do know is that writing has always been an outlet for me and I want my writing to be an outlet for others as well. Nothing pleases me more than knowing that women are empowered by the words I have written. So, therefore, I will continue to write and through my words hope that one day women, even just one, will find her strength.


4 responses to “Let Them Eat Cake! (A Tribute to Loving Yourself)

  1. I’m obsessed with this article. I want to read it every day to myself just so the points stick with me. And this: “A true woman fits into no mold. She makes her own.” I think I may just print it out and stick it in my cubicle at work.


  2. Thank you all for your encouraging comments. It’s important for me that women believe in building themselves to their own standards, not that of others.Thank you for believing in that too!


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