When we’re busy working, paying bills, cooking dinner, visiting friends and family, exercising, cleaning the house, and taking care of everything else our busy lives require, sometimes our relationships are the last thing we nurture. It’s not because we don’t love our partners, or because we don’t appreciate everything they do. In fact, it’s the opposite – we love and appreciate them so much that we know they can survive a little neglect (sorry, darling!).
It happens to us all, even when we don’t mean for it to. Which is why I love Valentine’s Day so much. Valentine’s Day helps put our partners back into focus. It reminds us that hey, they could use a little appreciation, too.
This Valentine’s Day, let’s work on showing our loved ones just how much we care about them all year long. Here are some simple ways to show your partner that you love them.
Cook them a meal. It can be a small meal, like some pancakes, or an elaborate four-course dinner. But take care of everything from start to finish.
Knock a chore off their to-do list. You know that long list of stuff you have to do, but you dread the idea of actually tackling? We’ve all got a list like that and your partner would love, love, love it if you would shoulder the burden of doing the dishes or taking out the trash, just so they don’t have to do it. Brownie points if it’s a chore they hate!
Hug and/or hold hands. It probably sounds a little silly, but hugs are awesome and seriously underrated. Of course, this varies from person to person, but hugs are such an easy way to make your loved one feel good. Also, remember how you used to hold hands all the time when you first started dating? Bring that back. Holding hands is a fun, playful way to say you care.
Offer a compliment – and mean it. How awesome does it feel when someone unexpectedly says something nice to you? Extend that same unexpected rush of warmth to your partner by telling them you think they look really lovely today (or whatever other compliment would mean a lot to them).
Leave them a note. Even if it’s just a sticky note that says hello. Put it someplace unexpected — pack it with their lunch bag, stick it in their sock drawer, slip it under their pillow. They will undoubtedly smile when they see it.
Say thank you. I cannot emphasize the importance of “thank you.” In truth, partners show they love each other hundreds of times a day in hundreds of different ways. An “I love you” is hidden in a boyfriend who puts a blanket on his girlfriend so she won’t be cold during her nap. It’s nestled in a wife who takes the family’s car to get an oil change because she knows her husband has had a long day. It’s in a text message that comes in the middle of the day simply saying, “Hey, how’s it going?” So for all these little ways your partner shows you they care, say thank you, I appreciate you, you mean the world to me – it’ll mean the world right back to them, too.